PERCEPTION can always be deluded by misrepresentation of facts. I always love to quote this expression in situations were there is any doubt in understanding a problem or a situation, “A mind can only see what it is prepared to see.” This is so true, because most of us are reactive type and we react according to the information that is presented to us and this way the facts are obscured from the mind and the mind can only see what is presented to it. We sometimes jump to conclude without analyzing the facts and pass judgments accordingly.
In case of Shoaib Malik’s so-called, so-far the first marriage, there are certain facts that are there but, there are certain things that have been exaggerated, changed and blown out of proportion. I feel the need of writing a thread to clear off the doubts and bring out the facts and realities to whatever extent we can by thrashing out this debate which is so hot at the moment that in Pakistan Shoaib and Sania Mirza’s news has taken over Asif Zardari’s political fiasco. In India too, it is stealing headlines on all TV channels and newspapers.
The initial statements given by the Siddiqui’s were pretty decently presented by their family as victims and they got all the sympathies from the majority and Shoaib Malik stood there like a simpleton paindoo, whatever. And, for that Shoaib Malik is paying a price for not sorting out the unsolved problems because he has once again poked his nose in the same den and this was bound to happen.
However, this time the Siddiqui family is not all that decent, in fact they have crossed the boundaries of decency and behaving like the sly fox that cannot reach some grapes on a high vine and announces that they are sour. However, Ayesha is not giving up yet she sounds bitter and full of vengeance based on the presumption that ‘vengeance is a food that must be eaten cold.’ Well, she is not only creating some funny stories that Malik offered her $1,000,000 to keep her mouth shut, but also threatened her. This is laughable because, no matter how much of a Paindoo Malik may be he cannot do this. Neither he has that kinda money nor, he is capable of carrying out threats. So, my straightforward reaction is – Ayesha is lying.
Another story that has been created by the Siddiquis is that Malik had physical relationship with Ayesha hence the marriage was consummated and there was even a miscarriage! This is even more ridiculous because, they never came up with this before. How can they hide such information for so long? This is definitely a matter of sour grapes.
Earlier, the Siddiquis claimed that Malik married her on telephone – to which Malik denied but, later accepted – this is wrong on part of Malik, he should have accepted it then and finished it off. They also produced a marriage certificate (nikahnama) which Malik once again denied that he did not sign it and later accepted it by saying he was too immature at that time. In my opinion he is still not matured enough but, that is another story. Why did Malik created these controversies? That is why I am saying that he is paying a price for his mistakes.
Ayesha Siddiqui has alleged that, ” Malik married her several years ago and consequently needs her permission to marry again or to grant her a divorce.” According to the Indian law Muslims are allowed to marry more than one wife. And, the husband does not need a written permission from his wife, he can only advise her that he is marrying another woman. But, Malik is not even Indian he is a Pakistani hence the law is not applicable. Secondly, Malik can also deny divorcing her (although he denied marrying her but, accepted signing the marriage certificate and claims that he has been cheated as he was very young and pressurized by the Siddiquis) there is nothing that can stop Malik from marrying Sania Mirza as long as Sania is willing to marry him.
The Indian police in Hyderabad said: ” there were some legal complications involved in the case and they would have to examine whether a foreigner committing an offence on foreign soil comes under the purview of Indian law. “ Absolutely not because he is not Indian, besides I have quoted above that the Indian law permits Muslim to marry and have more than one wife. So, how come they took Malik’s passport? This is harassment and the Pakistan Embassy must take up this matter at a higher level.
If the Siddiquis have filed a fraud complaint then, Malik should also do the same by saying that he was cheated and they showed the photograph of another girl and trapped him. If Malik still has the photograph of that girl who is not Ayesha then he should bring it out and show it to the media. Reportedly, Malik refused by saying that the girl has since been married it is not nice to ruin her married life. That is again a very stupid notion because, that girl must either be Ayesha’s friend or a victim. If she was a friend and played a deliberate ruse to trap Malik, she deserves to be exposed. And, if she is a victim and Ayesha used her photograph without her consent then she should know the truth and she should expose Ayesha. So, Malik trying to be nice and kind is a mistake. It is he who needs to clear his name and he should not hesitate in speaking the truth, if it is the truth. ” If you tell the truth, you don’t have to remember anything.” Mark Twain.
Sania Mirza’s appeal to the Indian media is excellent, she asked them to think before what they are talking or publishing about Malik whom she is going to marry in the next ten days or so. She was serious, firm and straightforward. She did the job which the Pakistani authorities must have done through a press release or by talking to the media and advising the Indian police to stop harassment.
What are your views? Feel free to express them. This is just a cricket blog and for the first time we are writing a thread on their personal lives because, it is a matter of national interest for both countries, India and Pakistan.